Are you aware :: how negative self-talk extends to others?

Abracadabra, promise - I’m not quoting Disney or Harry Potter; in Hebrew this delightful phrase refers to creating through our own words.

   I will create as I speak.

   I create through my words.

   I will create as has been spoken. 

I’m not taking the magic from this term, in fact - it is quite magical to realize the depth and impact the meaning holds.

All the ways we speak to ourselves in experiencing heaviness :: being too critical, setting unrealistic expectations, being emotionally guarded … you get where I’m going, these behaviors unknowingly extend to others.

• Self criticism in turn can equate to judgment of others.

• Unrealistic expectations, well - that one is exactly transferable.

• Emotionally guarded can hold us back from building solid relationships + isolating ourselves.
  

Nerd tip :: via evolution, our brains were built to keep us alive - hardwired to lean toward negativity in order to survive.  

Biologically our brains remain stuck in the past.

70% of the time our brains have negative thoughts.

93% of our time is absorbed in repeating these thoughts.

Those stats are gross, right?  Well, on the upswing - our brains are highly trainable.

So, how can we reprogram our thinking to lean more positive?

(1) Clear our mind.

Remember, you are human … our default mindset is built to keep us alive, not necessarily to be happy and light. 

When you start getting overwhelmed by heavy thoughts of self - reframe and simplify with one question…

Would you speak this way to a child, a friend, your partner, a colleague?

(2) Stay present.

Root yourself in the moment.

Own that every circumstance or outcome can be turned into a gift or opportunity.

(3) Self love is self acceptance.

Give yourself space for integrating a self love system that works for you - exercising daily the acknowledgement of your approval of self.

Okay, got it … what’s next, you say?

Practice (practice … and practice more!!) the work of positive self-talk, it will build new neural pathways rewiring the brain to avoid that innate ancestral mindset.